It’s been about 2 months and a week since I moved across country. Of course when I decided to move here I was thinking about all the positive things about moving, but after a little while – you start to see that there are some tradeoffs to living anywhere. Here are some that I’ve come across:
Slow drivers — more open roads
Beautiful cities with lights and energy — beautiful mountains, puffy clouds and bright stars
Subpar hair salons — more good hair days
Slow service — more people willing to help
No family around — living out my life wishes
One of the biggest tradeoffs is not being near my family. Not having them around to hug is a huge deal, but I’m doing better than I was the first month. When I went home last month for my dad’s birthday – I wasn’t sure how I’d feel about coming back. My flight was supposed to be Sunday night – but I was so ready to go home that I went to the airport Sunday morning so that I can wait on standby to catch the earlier flight. Because of this, I wasn’t sure if I’d get to NJ and not want to come back to AZ – but I was ready. And then I got to the airport to go back to AZ – and they offered me a $400 voucher to stay an extra day. It was tempting because I didn’t have to return to work for a couple days. I called my mother, and she said “Michelle, stay on your schedule – go home.” Wow! My mother called Arizona “home.” When your mother, the owner of your first home (aka, her womb) tells you to go “home” and considers another place that she doesn’t live in home, then you go home. This is my new place – my new home and I have to come to terms with the fact that I’m making a new life for myself. Stay on schedule, stay focused, stop looking back at the door that’s closing – observe as the new doors opens.
I realized that although I loved being home, there was nothing left for me to do there except for visit my family and a few friends. After you’ve lived in a certain place for so long, and you haven’t built a new life for yourself with a spouse and kids – it’s time to explore and see what else is out there. Thank goodness for Facebook memories because each day when I click on “On This Day” I come across different statuses that I’ve written in the past seven years. I can’t believe how many times in different ways I wished summer were longer. Then there were times when I expressed ways that I was trying to get over my seasonal depression and how I will need to go into hibernation because the cold was starting to come. As much as I want to be around my family because they are such a big part of my life, my core has wanted to be in a sun shiny place for a long time – I wished and wished for it – and even though I really never thought it would happen, not taking this leap would mean I’m not living my life for me.
It feels like I’ve been here for so long, but then I remember it’s only been two months – it’s normal for me to feel unsure. I wonder how long it will take for me to feel like I belong here.
One of my Facebook friends is doing a social experiment by calling each of her Facebook friends and having a conversation with them. She couldn’t believe that I picked up and moved to Arizona. She’s originally from Minnesota, moved to New Jersey, lived in Korea, and now is in Cali. I met her in college and I always envied her – just like I do anyone I meet that has learned to live in a new place. Something about that has always intrigued me. And I told her that. Everyone I’ve ever met who has picked up and moved somewhere else has always inspired me. I told her how the first month I felt a little homesickish, but felt better once I went to visit and came back. After our conversation, she told me she’s felt homesick each time she moved too. For some reason I didn’t think she ever had. I thought maybe some people are cut-out for this and maybe I’m not? Having her tell me that met a lot. It means she got over it, and then moved again – so it’s not the worst thing in the world. I think the worser thing would be staying put, and not ever pushing yourself to take that leap and try something new.
Accomplishments during my second month:
- Pumped my own gas and learned how to use the metal thing to hold it so I don’t have to hold the pump the whole time.
- Started going to Sprouts food store!
- Saw a man running while dragging a tire with a rope attached to his back.
- Witnessed a haboob – major dust storm.
- Experienced a lazy Sunday with a full day of rain!
- Went to the DMV to get my license.
- Took a Dale Carnegie communication class.
- Got a standing desk at work.
- Went to Bikram yoga.
- Went to a dentist for a root canal that I really loved – thanks to one of my student’s recommendations. I know this sounds like a really crazy thing to be excited about, but I am – good dentists are hard to find! He was awesome and not only that, but my student told me today that he called her to thank her for recommending me because he loved treating me. This is the new world I’m living in. The guy had his hands in my mouth for a total of 2 hours (2 appointments) and for the second appointment I had just left the DMV so I was short on time and had to eat MC DONALD’S because it was the quickest option before my appointment so even though I mouthwashed, I was sure my breath smelled of onions and I was falling asleep half the time. What was there for him to love? I really loved because he explained everything so nicely and seemed to be so precise with everything.